You can try to make it work.
You tell yourself to give it three months  to settle in, to get used to the systems, the team, the pace.

Three months is fair. You’re not being impatient. You’re giving the role — and yourself — a fighting chance.

But here’s the thing:

If by month three, your gut’s still unsettled...
If you still feel invisible in the room...
If your values don’t align with theirs...
Or if the job chips away at your confidence instead of building you up...
You owe it to yourself to stop convincing yourself to stay.

Sometimes it’s not about whether you can do the job.
It’s about whether you should.

We’ve all been told to “stick it out,” to “be grateful,” or to “give it more time.”
But not every mismatch is fixable with time. Not every culture is made for you. And that’s okay.

Respect, support, alignment — these shouldn’t be hard-won prizes. They should be the baseline.

You’re not difficult for wanting to feel seen.
You’re not ungrateful for wanting more than a paycheck.
And you’re not weak for choosing peace over pride.

Walking away isn’t quitting. It’s choosing you.

So if you’ve done your part
And the only thing growing is your doubt
Then maybe, just maybe, it’s time to walk toward something better.

Because staying in a role that doesn’t value you?
That’s not loyalty. That’s self-neglect.

You deserve better. Full stop.